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Raising a Child With Values

Since birth, we’ve been interacting with the environment. Having developed speech, we acquire social skills and cultural knowledge. All these factors turn into life values that structure our personality and form our identity. Everyone has different values ​​that guide and motivate our personal development.

Family and school

Values education firstly begins in family and continues at school. Basic values are acquired respectively by taking parents as role models and education at schools.  In order to strengthen personality traits, life values must be coherent. If there is no consistency between the values that students learn or witness in the environment, then conflicts occur causing personality disorders. 

In the context of family, parents do more than expect younger members to live up to their values.  They find ways to consciously teach them by means of modeling them in their own behavior through hard work and excellence. 

Parents and values

  • Modeling appropriate behavior is a powerful way to transmit values. Children are more influenced by what they see parents doing than by what parents tell them to do. For example, if a parent wants her child to be respectful when talking to older people, one of the best ways to encourage that behavior is to be respectful himself/herself – when talking to the child as well as to other people.
  • Practice Skillful Communication. What families who communicate well have in common is an intention to be clear and open.  They avoid secrets, manipulation games that foster distrust. Instead, they have a commitment to transparency.  They are willing to learn from each other, listen to one another, and create an atmosphere of tolerance for differences.  They are willing to work together to resolve conflicts.
  • Contact with ourselves. Expressing emotions helps us to have a clear and honest dialogue with ourselves. A good relationship with oneself is also the basis of a good relationship with others. We cultivate empathy as soon as we perceive, name and accept our own (even the most negative) emotions. If we want our children to build secure and stable relationships, we should cultivate acceptance of their feelings through active listening.

School and values

  • The teacher promotes the values ​​of life through the way he/she relates and interacts with the students as well as the educational material he/she uses or chooses to incorporate in the lesson.
  • Every child needs aesthetic experiences, space to exercise his/her imagination, freedom to interpret and express her/himself, and the possibility to develop his/her creative potential. Arts education fosters qualitative intelligence and sensitivity.
  • Research has shown that reading literary texts, fairy tales and novels stimulates creative imagination while creating empathy in children and promoting the educational process.
  • One of the most important values ​​that the school cultivates is the value of volunteering. The more we give, the happier we feel. Volunteeringincreases self-confidence provides a natural sense of accomplishment, pride and identity.

Ms. Katerina Hotzoglou is a Clinical Psychologist MA - Child Psychologist MSc - Psychotherapist and Psychologist of Kessaris School

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